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Enough with the finally

I'm doing The Sprinkler at my wedding almost 10 years ago. I got married when I was ready.

I’m doing The Sprinkler at my wedding almost 10 years ago. I got married when I was ready.

Recently I have known people who have gotten engaged. At least one person (though usually more) has a response of FINALLY!

Sometimes when someone decides to have a baby, the response is FINALLY!

Really, is that necessary?

If someone wants to get married or not, have a baby or not, shouldn’t that be their business?

There are a multitude of reasons why people FINALLY get married, move in together, get engaged, have a baby, buy a house or whatever. These are all major commitments, which shouldn’t be taken lightly. I believe these type of life decisions should be made with an informed and educated decision.

I have to admit that years ago when a girlfriend told me that she and her boyfriend had gotten engaged my response was FINALLY! Guh! I can’t believe that I said that.

I am a child of divorce … many divorces.

Which means I take marriage seriously and I would never jump into a marriage before I was ready. Not when anyone else was ready, but when I was ready! (And, of course, The Husband had to be ready as well.)

OK, that was my soapbox rant. Aren’t you glad Go Fit Girl! is back posting regularly?

And Congrats to all my recently engaged, pregnant, married, new homeowner friends …

4 Responses to “Enough with the finally”

  1. Brenda :) Says:

    Obviously, I am not rushing with marriage or children…lol. But I do know that when/if any of those events were to happen I would have plenty of people go “FINALLY”..including my parents. I look at as something to say after an accomplishment. A tough workout, grading, or even if it’s cleaning house..when I am done I will say to myself “finally”. I appreciate your rant…we all need to vent now and then. 🙂

  2. Ann Says:

    Good for you not rushing, Brenda.
    I think a FINALLY after the house is clean or a class is complete is legit. Especially because your FINALLY it to yourself. 🙂
    Thanks for the comment.

  3. Nicole Says:

    I agree Ann! I agree that people only have the best intentions, and they’re likely really saying “I’m glad that you’ll FINALLY be experiencing this wonderful thing”, but there’s a connotation that the life event is a) is on some sort of ideal timeline for people, and b) that the life event is some sort of “must do” goal for everyone.

  4. Ann Says:

    Yea, I don’t believe there is any ill will. We just have to be careful when we chose our words toward others.
    And big life events deserve consideration.
    We are all on our own event timeline.
    Thanks for your comment.