50 years of marriage

Today my mother-in-law and father-in-law, Marilyn and Ed, celebrate 50 years of marriage.

I met Marilyn and Ed a little more than 15 years ago in Missouri (where they live) at a family reunion.

They were warm and kind and made me feel welcome in their home.

Over the years they have continued to make me feel welcome and part of the family. I’m not just their daughter-in-law, I’m their daughter as well.

Marilyn and Ed have two sons, Craig and Curt.

I feel so grateful that they wanted to be in the Pacific Northwest for their anniversary. They are hanging out with Curt and me to celebrate.

Last night was a treat for them as their oldest son, Craig, was in town for work and the four (along with some others) of them went out to dinner. (I was teaching last night.)

Today they head to the coast for a night over in Newport.

On Saturday the four of us will head out to dinner to celebrate (again)!

Lots of celebrating going on. But at 50 years that is definitely something to celebrate over and over.

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Love is love

A week ago today the Supreme Court of the United States (SCOTUS) ruled on marriage equality.

The Constitution grants … (all) equal dignity in the eyes of the law. It is so ordered.

In light of the great news, my Facebook post read: Love is love. Marriage equality for all! As it should be.

Some people are against gay marriage. For reasons of religion, morals, procreation, etc.

Here’s the deal: Marriage is about two consenting adults making a commitment.

Merriam-Webster defines marriage as: a (1): the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law (2): the state of being united to a person of the same sex in a relationship like that of a traditional marriage.

Marriage is a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law, not by religion or the bible. And actually, there is nothing in there stating love.

Though I personally think love is an important factor when you get married. But it is not required to be legal.

But people get married for a variety of reasons. And their reasons are none of my business even if I disagree.

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Marriage is for me

Recently on Facebook I have seen many friends share the link to a story about a blog post titled: Marriage Isn’t For You.

ViralNova reposted it and it is getting a lot of attention.

I have wanted to comment on some of my friends’ posts. But I just decided to write my own response to it.

Basically the blogger is saying, marriage isn’t for you. You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy.

I respect the guy’s view. But I disagree with it.

I am a child of divorce(s). Yes, plural. I won’t get into specifics.

I have seen too many people stay married for their kids or other reasons and they suffer being unhappy. (My biggest issue with staying married for the kids is that you are teaching your children that that is what a normal marriage looks like.)

I am not a fan of divorce. But I am realistic and know that it can be necessary. I think if your marriage gets to that point of true unhappiness (for whatever reason) you should not stayed married.

But I also think many take marriage lightly and get married before they are ready.

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Enough with the finally

Recently I have known people who have gotten engaged. At least one person (though usually more) has a response of FINALLY!

Sometimes when someone decides to have a baby, the response is FINALLY!

Really, is that necessary?

If someone wants to get married or not, have a baby or not, shouldn’t that be their business?

There are a multitude of reasons why people FINALLY get married, move in together, get engaged, have a baby, buy a house or whatever. These are all major commitments, which shouldn’t be taken lightly. I believe these type of life decisions should be made with an informed and educated decision.

I have to admit that years ago when a girlfriend told me that she and her boyfriend had gotten engaged my response was FINALLY! Guh! I can’t believe that I said that.

I am a child of divorce … many divorces.

Which means I take marriage seriously and I would never jump into a marriage before I was ready. Not when anyone else was ready, but when I was ready! (And, of course, The Husband had to be ready as well.)

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I am a good person

I believe in religious rights, which means I believe people can practice or not practice any religion one chooses. I may not agree with your choice. But it is yours. And as long as you don’t try to put your beliefs on me we are cool.

I also believe in the separation of Church and State.

I grew up as a Catholic. I was confirmed at 16. I am now a non-practicing Catholic and have been for about 20 years.

Recently I have been having numerous conversations about what it means to be a Christian.

This really has me thinking and wondering why it is so important for so many to be labeled or to label others as a Christian.

Isn’t a good person a good person regardless of their religious affiliation? Muslims, Jews, agnostics, atheists, Buddhists are among those that are not Christian. I know people who represent all those I just mentioned and they are good, kind, decent, loving people.

I consider myself a Christian and a good person. Those two don’t always go hand in hand.

We live in a world where there is so much cruelty and judgment.

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