The strong women in my life

wrote this post in November 2012. My friend Bridgette suggested I repost for Mother’s Day. So I did two years ago and last year and am doing it again this year. 

This is a tribute to all the strong women and mothers (in whatever form of mom you are) I know. You have the hardest job in the world and definitely deserve more than just one day of celebrations.

For those of you who have lost their mothers, I’m so sorry. I hope you can reflect on all of the good memories you hold dear. 

Happy Mother’s Day!

I keep a notebook in my work bag where I scribble down post ideas or many times an actual post. A lot of times it is easier for me to find my voice if I jot it down on paper first and type later.

I also keep a notepad in my purse in case an idea comes and I don’t want to forget it.

I have a lot of ideas and little time to make them into something. But I have them at least documented for a post down the road. And if you have asked me about something, it is written down … Continue reading

Choosing my path …

A week ago was Mother’s Day. I reposted a tribute to my mom and my grandmas as the strong women in my life who helped mold me to be the person I am today.

I have also written about being Child Free by Choice (CFBC for short). I am 100% OK with my choice. But for some reason it makes so many people uncomfortable. Which I don’t get. This is not about you. It’s about me.

I am very open about my choice.

It bothers me that I am questioned, especially since I have given my decision and choice a lot of thought.

(To quote Charlotte from Sex and the City, I choose my choice!)

But what really upsets me is how some don’t realize that there are so many women out there who want to have a baby more than anything and they can’t get pregnant, stay pregnant, they lost a child or children, they are in an unhealthy relationship, they don’t want to have a baby alone, etc. …

Just because I don’t want to be a mom and am Child Free by Choice doesn’t mean:

The strong women in my life

I wrote this post back in November. My friend Bridgette suggested I repost for Mother’s Day.

This is a tribute to all the strong women and mothers (in whatever form of mom you are) I know. You have the hardest job in the world and definitely deserve more than just one day of celebrations.

Happy Mother’s Day!

I keep a notebook in my work bag where I scribble down post ideas or many times an actual post. A lot of times it is easier for me to find my voice if I jot it down on paper first and type later.

I also keep a notepad in my purse in case an idea comes and I don’t want to forget it.

I have a lot of ideas and little time to make them into something. But I have them at least documented for a post down the road. And if you have asked me about something, it is written down in the notebook or on a stickie and I will eventually get to it.

The whole job thing really gets in the way of the blog.

Anyway, today’s post actually morphed from another feverish jotting down of a … Continue reading

The strong women in my life

I keep a notebook in my work bag where I scribble down post ideas or many times an actual post. A lot of times it is easier for me to find my voice if I jot it down on paper first and type later.

I also keep a notepad in my purse in case an idea comes and I don’t want to forget it.

I have a lot of ideas and little time to make them into something. But I have them at least documented for a post down the road. And if you have asked me about something, it is written down in the notebook or on a stickie and I will eventually get to it.

The whole job thing really gets in the way of the blog.

Anyway, today’s post actually morphed from another feverish jotting down of a different post, which made the blog last month.

Today’s post is a tribute to all the strong women in my life.

But the actual post is about three particular women.

I have strong women in my life.

I was lucky enough to grow up with very different, very unique and very strong women to look up to and strive … Continue reading

Why I am Child Free By Choice

I think being a mom is the most important job in the world. The second most important job is being president of the United States.

I don’t want to be either.

This post is about why I, along with my husband, have chosen to be Child Free By Choice. It is not a reflection on or judgment  on anyone else. This is about ME.

I don’t ever remember having an overwhelming desire to have a baby.

At some point in my 20s I decided if I was still single at 30 I would adopt a baby.

By the time I was 30 I was married. When Curt and I got married I figured we would have kids. Because that is what you do, right? Get married … have kids …

A little more than a year after we were married we moved to the Bay Area. We were no longer in newspapers, which meant we were no longer working nights, weekends, holidays. We had the same days off and could actually do stuff together. What an amazing concept.

About six months after moving to Berkeley my temporary gig became a full-time job and money was starting to be less of … Continue reading

Mi familia

I spent a good amount of time last week at the hospital visiting my grandpa. (I was there every day for four days in a row. I also visited with him twice the day before he headed to the hospital.)

Last Tuesday my grandpa had surgery. I spent between 6-7 hours in the surgery waiting room. That’s a lot of people watching.

I am 75% Mexican American. I have a mother who is 100% Mexican American and a father who is 50% Mexican American; 25% Czech American; and 25% Irish American. (My grandpa is 50% Czech American and 50% Irish American.)

I identify with all parts of my ethnic upbringing. The most prominent, of course, is being a Mexican American.

I observed a couple of different Mexican families in the waiting room. Family is very important to Mexicans and Mexican Americans. (I realize it is important to other cultures as well. But I observed the love and loyalty of Mexican families last week. And Tucson is full of them.)

According to this Kwintessential link, the family is at the center of the social structure. Families are still generally large. The extended family is as important as the nuclear family since … Continue reading

Happy Mother’s Day

When I was 9 and my brother was 5 our parents divorced.

The choices and decisions my mom made almost 30 years ago makes me the person and woman I am today.

At a time when few people were divorcing my mom made the best decision for herself and for her kids. And we struggled. But as I look back at the hard times and great memories I am proud of my mom and the little family we were.

One of my favorite memories were Friday nights. At the end of our week we would get a movie or two at the 99 cent video store and pizza from Little Caesars. We would pile on the sofa bed and watch movies and eat our pizza and zonk out.

Growing up with a single mom was very humbling. The sacrifices my mom made for John and me was truly an act of love. And I will always be grateful.

My mom has been retired for about 9 years, she owns her own house (has for many years), travels regularly, volunteers at many organizations (it’s like part-time job) and reads like crazy.

She is such an inspiration for how much she cares … Continue reading

Moms, how do you do it all?

In honor of Mother’s Day I am finally going to work on answering Windy’s question: If you are taking suggestions, I am curious how everyone makes time for exercise with busy lives including getting a kid to school (on time) getting themselves to work (also on time) working (all day) heading home to make/eat dinner (good-for-you) and then being totally wiped out for the night … and then doing the whole thing over again! I think I have the eating (relatively) right down, drinking water vs. soda and basic better-for-you choices, but that whole fitness regimen is just not fitting in for me. Since you are asking, that is what I’d like to hear more about.

I am a busy person as well, long commute, long hours, also the maid and housewife at home and all that other stuff I have to take care of. But I don’t have kids. So this question is difficult for me to answer. In my busy life I do try (and most days succeed) on working out every day or close to it. I have done my own research. But I want to know what real … Continue reading

Home-cooked Mexican food by Mom

Most of this weekend has been consumed by alcohol and good cooking by Mom.

My mom and stepdad were in town for my birthday. They go home tomorrow. And my plan is to get back to my regular workout and eating schedule tomorrow.

Friday (my birthday) I had a big breakfast; then Mom and  I spent a girls’ day together, which also included cocktails and appetizers; sushi dinner–which was pretty much the only healthy thing I had all day. Saturday my mom cooked a feast for me, Curt and some friends: chicken flautas, rice, beans, etc. It was good but greasy and so unhealthy. Today we had a light breakfast, then cheese, salami and crackers, wine, then a visit to McNally’s for drinks. And then tacos–cooked by Mom. Man, they were good. I have my fat pants on at the moment and am feeling a little gross. But it was worth it. 🙂

Check back and see how my attempt at getting back on track goes …