We can be strong and support each other

Things falling apart is a kind of testing and also a kind of healing. We think that the point is to pass the test or to overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. The come together and they fall apart. They they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.

~Excerpt from Pema Chödrön’s “When Things Fall Apart”


We are stronger together. I truly believe that.

I have been taking the past few days to reflect and think about the election, the results and what it all means and how I feel about it. I’ve been collecting and gathering my thoughts and feelings.

I cried a lot on Wednesday. I am still so very sad, heartbroken, in shock and disbelief, angry …

As a woman I feel as I do; as a Mexican American I feel as I do; as a feminist I feel as I do; as a human being I feel as I do; as someone who was raised to love everyone I feel as I … Continue reading

Be smart, buckle up

As a kid we always buckled up. My mom also made my brother and me sit in the back seat, even after we weren’t babies or toddlers or short people. Airbags didn’t even exist, but the back seat was the safest place. I remember my uncle used to make fun of us. Then he had a kid and he did the same thing …

Buckling up in the car has pretty much always been automatic for me. I don’t even think about it I just do it. I used to not buckle up in the back of a cab. Why? Who knows. But the way those cabbies drive you better believe I do it.

I take a shuttle bus from Emeryville to work in South San Francisco. I used to notice some (not most) of the riders would buckle up. For some reason I thought that was a little funny. But I never said anything. Then I realized I was being dumb by not buckling up. If that bus gets in an accident, why do I think I would be safe without a seat belt? So I have started buckling up on the bus. It still isn’t regular practice and … Continue reading